DIFFERENCES.

Photo: Will Taylor

 

About a month ago, I shared on social media that I had begun taking classes to become certified in the Jungian Psychotherapy perspective. Doing so is not only important to me because it is a viewpoint that I happen to be insanely curious about, but Carl Jung, is a psychiatrist who developed the Shadow archetype, and then, subsequently, went on to create Shadow Work as a tool helpful in achieving self-actualization, which is 1 I heavily utilize in my Coaching practice.

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It is with great pride & a massive sense of accomplishment that I tell you I passed level 1 certification & have progressed onto level 2 of 6!! (insert Happy Dance here)

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Still, in learning, I have found that my curiosity is insatiable! That what I’m studying feels important & much bigger than me & exactly where I am supposed to be, in my own private, Shannon, bubble.

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Have you ever felt like that?

Have you ever felt so inside of yourself that when you choose it feels as if nothing is more important than that choice? Like nothing could dissuade you?

Have you ever felt that in choosing you, you simultaneously realize it as a much bigger decision? Like in choosing you, it isn’t actually just about you?

Have you ever felt that in becoming so resolute in thought, you couldn’t possibly be entering into this alone? That the enormity of choice feels like choosing the experience for you & the world?

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That’s exactly how I felt choosing to immerse myself in Shadow Work.

EXCITED about where I’m at!
SALIVATING over what comes next!
CURIOUS about what I’ll discover!
EAGER of what it means (to me) FOR ME!

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Taking on something new is a different experience for everyone. We all process information individually & how we decide to do that is reflective of the relationship we have with ourselves. That’s why I take 0 issues with sharing that I make decisions for me. In fact, the decision to increase my depth of knowledge about Shadow Work & the Jungian perspective was all about me. It is an individual choice. One I entered into by becoming deeply introspective to hear what I want, see what I value, understand the experience I desire in learning, & then, choose.

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I understand the benefits of feedback. I value the perspective shift that can occur from support. I am no stranger to self-doubt & seeking opinion when it feels unclear. Yet, today, there is a great need for honesty about choice & our cultural willingness to cheerlead about its availability, but then, damn each other for what we choose.

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The honesty needed right now is to encourage us all to make the best decisions we can, while realizing that what WE NEED or WANT may not match that of others, & It Is STILL OK. That when it comes to making choices, WE ARE SUPPOSED TO CHOOSE FOR US 1st, and that isn’t wrong.

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In the wake of living in a world that feels like a top spinning on the wrong end, it is important to choose YOU.

  • Never, in life, is it wrong to be aware of what we’re available for or not. That is being awake!
  • Never, in life, it is wrong to know what we want or don’t.  That is being aware!
  • Never, in life, is it wrong to understand what we bring to the table or not. That is being present!

It is conscious. Actively choosing to see who we are, what motivates us, & why we choose, is consciousness.

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It is conscious to be present. Am I choosing because it is what I want?
It is conscious to find value. Am I choosing because it is meaningful (distinguish the meaning)?
It is conscious to believe what you believe. Am I choosing because it’s what I’ve experienced?
It is conscious to know that we all have different desires. Am I choosing for me or them?
In fact, it is conscious to be aware of differences & that you still get to choose.

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At any time, not just during a crisis, checking in with loved ones, friends, neighbors, co-workers, etc., is great. It is important to allow yourself to bask in connection where, when, & how you need it. PERIOD. Receiving the support you need is conscious. It is conscious behavior to know our needs to have them met. Just don’t forget that what you need may not be understood or supported & IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE to substantiate the fact that you still want it. 

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Recognizing that we’re all unique is important & as a result of our individuality, so is accepting that there could be differences among so much difference. I mean, come on. There’s like billions of people in the world. That’s a lot of specificity to consider. A lot of personality. A lot of opinions. A lot of varying needs. Therefore, its worth considering that with that much volume, the potentiality for significant difference among humanity may be vast, too.

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Whatever you decide you need to progress, at any time, is OK… as long as you decide. Let us not be so consumed with what everyone else is doing that we deny turning the focus inward to identify personal wants, values, or experiences desired to choose YOU. Ultimately, there are going to be differences because what we value, or what holds meaning to us, differs on a person-by-person basis.

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It’s inevitable when you really think about it? Difference. It will happen because no matter how similar we are, we are also different.

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When it comes to the matter of choice, are you willing to acknowledge that there could be differences and decide that what you want & need, is still what you want & need?

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Is it possible to acknowledge difference, while simultaneously understanding that knowing about it doesn’t have to manipulate or convince you into being who you’re not? 

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What if differences didn’t have to be a deterrent? What if it got to be what 1 decides is meaningful for them?

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What if difference stopped being scary & started being what makes us unique?

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Be Good to Yourself for Fuck’s Sake!

xoxo,

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