EGO IS A SOCIAL FICTION FOR WHICH 1 PERSON AT A TIME GETS ALL THE BLAME.
-Robert Anton Wilson
Savage adjective: force of nature, wild
Way noun: method, style, or manner of doing something
Ego noun: a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance
Confidence noun: feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities
Transmute verb: change in form nature or substance
EGO (not to be confused with arrogance) IS LIFE, PASSION, EXCITEMENT, GROWTH, DRIVE, CREATIVITY, INDIVIDUALITY, UNIQUE PERSONALITY & REASON.
Imagine looking into a mirror & your 1st thought ISN’T self-deprecating.
Imagine being in a room full of people & NOT feeling judgment or an insatiable desire to fade into the background.
Imagine publicly wearing a bathing suit WITHOUT the undying need to cover up.
Imagine that your nudity isn’t shameful or grotesque.
Imagine that you’re no longer a prude.
Imagine sharing your opinion without fear of backlash, ridicule, or being wrong.
Imagine saying NO or YES without reason or explanation.
Imagine living in complete trust with yourself.
Imagine being aware of perception, but not giving a fuck about it.
Imagine knowing that there will be difference & thoughts about who you are, how you look, what you say, think or do, but celebrating complete AUTONOMY.
Imagine living a world in which you know there will be highs & lows, but no matter how it turns out or what anyone thinks,
BEING 100% YOU IS WHAT MATTERS.
PROGRESSION SUGGESTS THAT EGO ISN’T A MALEVOLENT “THING” IT IS A PROCESS AND IT’S ENTIRELY DIFFERENT FROM EGOTISM, NARCISSISM, ARROGANCE, AND OTHER TRAITS WITH WHICH WE TEND TO HASTILY CONFLATE IT.
-S. Chris Edmonds
My name is Shannon Wooten. I am a Life Coach, Writer, Infertility Survivor & author of Infertility Sucks, You Don’t!
I love a delicious French 75, rock band T-shirts, in-depth conversation, giving ALL the fucks & no fucks at all, Mayan Coffee & paradoxical humans. I’m a daughter, sister, wife, proud Aunt, loyal friend, business owner, fashion obsessed, mother to 2 fur babies, Tinkerbells BFF, Poe lover, Christmas craver & a horror movie savant.
For as long as I can remember, I have struggled with self-esteem. No form of self-deprecation was off-limits; body weight, body image, body harm, minimized my intelligence, beauty, & likability. When I think about “why”, I can identify triggers of blame, shame, or regret, but it doesn’t give me a reason. The only reason I find is ME.
Yes. I was bullied. Yes. I learned differently. Yes. I was rebellious. I’ve even faced struggle & serious consideration about whether or not I want to exist. No matter what I faced, how I was treated, or shutdown, when I think about the contentious relationship that I have had with myself it really comes down to one thing, I never learned that it was OK to just BE ME.
I don’t consider myself “typical”, but I guess that’s because I don’t know what that is, & quite possibly, it’s because I don’t give a fuck. At least, not anymore.
Through making my self-relationship a priority that is unavailable for judgment, shame, or opinion, I have changed. My life has changed. Along with everything & everyone in it.
I believe “NO” is an invitation & I won’t accept living disempowered. I don’t care for the status quo. I’m not influenced by what others think. I don’t want a cookie cutter life. I don’t know what “appropriate” or “well behaved” means, & perhaps, that’s because for most of my life I tried to be it. I tried to be something that I didn’t understand. I tried to be what I wasn’t… EVERYTHING BUT ME.
I have played “the game”, stayed small, covered-up, followed the rules, watched my mouth, & allowed the opinions of the world to overshadow me. I’ve challenged my entire being to be different, & denied my creativity, sharing my heart, being seen, heard, loved, understood, & free. I’ve hated myself with seething anger & couldn’t figure out “why”, that is until I decided to walk with my shadows, uncensor myself, & know that there is no love, ease, creativity, or freedom to receive until I LOVE ME.
I want you to know that it has taken me years of soul searching, introspection, depression, & humble honesty, to find the beauty in my freedom. I want you to know that at times I felt like I was going crazy & I was scared. I want you to know that I have lost people & received ridicule, but here-the-fuck-I-AM.
While my journey to confidence wasn’t easy, I’ve never felt more alive, seen more success, been more creative, had quality relationships or believed more was possible.
I’ve learned from who I have been without judgment. I’ve shined a light on all that felt “wrong”. I’ve faced the fact that I did everything I could to be unlike me & asked myself “Who do you want to be instead?”
I’ve liberated myself to do the opposite of what made me feel small & in return I found my ease, effortlessness, sexuality, brilliance, freedom & an undeniable zest for life. I’ve learned that I am not 1-dimensional. I am not static. I am in motion & my life is in constant rediscovery. I am a lesson to learn, a treasure to cherish, & a soul in evolution.
Loving who I am allows me to experience life with gratitude, ease, & TAKE UP SPACE. Now, I want to share how I did it with you.
Allow yourself to consider:
* What a confident you looks like?
* How does she talk?
* Who is she to herself & others?
* When does she show-up, give a fuck, & allow herself to be affected, or not?
* Where does she do business, live, unleash, get inspired, & play?
* Why does she do -or not- anything?
* What is her light about?
AN ARTIST CANNOT CREATE WITHOUT HIS or HER EGO. IT’S WHAT MAKES YOU UNIQUE.
The Savage Way is a program about Your Relationship to You.
It is a program about self-discovery, self- love, & self-awareness.
IT IS A PROGRAM ABOUT RECLAMATION.
It is about trust.
It is about hearing the voices in your head that tell you NO & exploring the yearning in you that screams YES.
It is designed to help you release what doesn’t work.
It is a program to support, acknowledge, & satisfy your craving for confidence & invites you to discover YOUR WAY to embody it.
It is a program designed to help you understand your current relationship to self.
It’s time to see YOUR WAY.
It’s time to separate you from a pack mentality.
It’s time to say adieu to the ways of your Grandmother, or Mother, with love, respect &
admiration for their spirit.
It’s time to see that who “THEY” are, how “THEY” see the world, or what “THEY”
think is acceptable, doesn’t fit.
It’s time to say hello to, respect, & admire your spirit.
It’s time to LIVE IN YOUR LIGHT.
Who you have been up to this point isn’t wrong, but if it feels off, then no wonder you do, too.
If you’re afraid to change, outgrow people, find yourself shrinking, or exhausted by life, then there is a reason.
How things have gone up to now are no longer working.
They are no longer a fit.
The Universe is calling you to expand.
YOUR TIME is now.
EVERYTHING IS… IMPERMANENT, ALL PHENOMENA ARE ESSENTIALLY EMPTY, NOTHING ACTUALLY EXISTS OR HAS A SOLID FORM, AND EVEN THE EGO DOES NOT EXIST.
THERE IS NO I.”
-Nepalese Rinpoche Chokyi Nyima
Confidence is a MINDSET before strategy.
It is being.
It is NOT doing.
If you feel like you’re “doing” life, more than you’re being in it, then therein lies the problem.
Change doesn’t make you wrong.
No matter how foreign it may feel, who you may leave behind, whether or not your succed, or how others perceive it, it does NOT make you wrong to embrace it.
Neither does deviating from living according to what others find as “acceptable” or “appropriate”.
HOLDING THE GOAL OF ATTAINING EGOLESSNESS IS EVIDENCE THAT YOU’RE WILLING TO PURSUE GOALS THAT DON’T MAKE SENSE (TO YOU), EVIDENCE THAT YOU DONT LIKE YOURSELF AND WANT TO GET AWAY.
-Jeremy E. Sherman Ph.D
It is a program designed to transmute:
* the negativity you hold about you,
* being seen, heard, & understood,
* loving you,
* celebrating you,
* receiving love & celebration,
* your very special gifts,
* the charm of you,
* & unleash your most savage self.
ESSENTIAL SELF-DISCOVERY METHODS CAN’T BE ACCOMPLISHED WITHOUT THE EMBRACE
OF THE EGO OF SELF.
It’s about making love to yourself as:
* the woman who is a little too little & a little too much,
* the woman prepared to express & continue to allow her rediscovery,
* the woman ready to claim that money, relationships, & creativity flows to YOU,
* the woman wanting to celebrate their complexity (i.e. soft & strong, loud & quiet, bold & invisible, cool & unsure, edgy & elegant, etc.),
* the woman craving effortlessness about who she is inside & out,
* the woman willing to become labeless
for the sake of herself & those like her.
TRYING TO KICK YOUR EGO TO THE CURB IS LIKE RUNNING FROM YOUR SHADOW. IT WILL ALWAYS BE THERE, SO YOU MIGHT AS WELL EMBRACE AND DEVELOP IT.
-S. Chris Edmonds
The Savage Way is about calling attention to what we do as humans.
We create boundaries.
We determine there is a “right” way to be.
When that mentality is popularized around something, like EGO, we decide that anything resembling it is wrong.
We decide that anything or anyone who embodies this thought, manner, or behavior is to be avoided & as such, convince ourselves to avoid it too.
When we create a boundary, we make it “right”.
We utilize it as a way to protect ourselves from judgment, misunderstanding or ridicule.
We use it to help us understand what we’re no longer available for.
But, what if what we’re no longer available for makes us no longer available for CHANGE?
What if we change?
What if we change & then the boundary no longer becomes a thing that protects us but cages us in?
EGO IS YOUR SPARK, YOUR FIRE, YOUR CREATIVITY, YOUR INDIVIDUALITY,
AND YOUR KEY SOUL SIGNATURE.
The Savage Way is designed to help you see the negative confidence energy you habor, by reestablishing your relationship to EGO.
It is about using ego as an access point to confidence.
Somewhere along the way EGO became wrong.
It became negative.
It became shameful & to be avoided.
What if ego is not wrong?
What if it is not shameful?
What if in avoiding it we keep the very elements of ourselves that make us who we are OUT &
all that stifles our independence in?
Your EGO is not wrong, bad, or something you need to avoid.
The relationship you have to it –if you make it wrong, bad, or avoidable- is.
There is a way to find appreciation for the wild, indefinable, labeless, taboo, dark, & scary in this world.
That way is to move YOU to a position of prominence.
The way is to integrate YOU with what is no longer serves you & transmute it.
ONE DOES NOT BECOME ENLIGHTENED BY IMAGINING FIGURES OF LIGHT,
BUT BY MAKING THE DARKNESS CONSCIOUS.
To transmute anything, there must be integration.
Therefore, to transmute confidence you have to be willing to STOP seeing who you are with it as wrong.
You have to be willing to experience a confident you as a level headed, beautiful, selfless, & full of integrity person.
You have to be willing to receive a confident you as a light of all lights.
You have to be willing to believe that your confidence inspires people to do, think, & feel the same.
That ego, just like anything can be made wrong, but when transmuted can become
an access point to confidence.
It is time to establish your relationship with confidence in a way that feels right.
It is time to stop feeling shame about your desires.
It is time to do it in a way that makes you Feel Like You.
SAYING EGO IS BAD IS AS PREPOSTEROUS AS STATING WATER IS BAD, BECAUSE IT CAN DROWN YOU
OR FIRE IS BAD BECAUSE IT CAN BURN YOU. EGO, WATER, AND FIRE ARE ALL LIFE SUSTAINING,
AND THEY ONLY BITE IF THEY ARE MISUSED.
Do you want to stop feeling confused about why people treat you the way they do?
Do you want to separate yourself from a pack mentality?
Do you want to be OK with it if people like you & if they don’t?
Do you want to recognize both the positive & negative impacts of ego?
Do you want to appreciate the autonomy of self & others?
Do you want to feel the effects of integrating confidence by being in both logic & flow?
Then, it’s time to take a journey.
It’s time to discover your way.
This Coaching Program is not currently accepting applications. Please contact Shannon at Shannon@LifewithShannon.com with questions.